Tag Archive | love

Should Age Be A Factor to Choosing your Ideal Role Model?

Hello darlings, I am really sorry for my inconsistency here. Truth be told, I have loads of write ups on my notes but I haven’t had time to edit and share them as I love to share from my computer. But going forward, I will always learn to share from my mobile WordPress app. 

I am a day late from my fashion post. I am going to share before the week runs out.
Let’s move on to today’s topic…

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I used to like Dammy (not her real name). She was a pretty girl, courageous, always happy, an achiever, already has 2 academic qualifications and some juicy certification to her name. And a successful entrepreneur. She is well traveled, learned and a multilingual. She was every girl’s ideal role model! 

I stalk her everyday on my Instagram and even had to follow her on Snapchat just to know more about her and see how she balanced life, school and even social media with her success.

…until she celebrated a birthday and I realized I was 3 years older…

I was angry!

How could I be modeling my life after a young girl as such!

I felt I had lived a lie since I started modeling my life in her path. I felt there was nothing I could have learnt from her. I concluded she was just too young to teach me anything. I believed I should look at people in my age group or older than I am. Honestly, I was so full of spite for her.

Until I learnt better…

We live in a society where people look down on you immediately they learn your age. This is the reason why most people just choose to hide their age. If you are too young, they tend to treat you as inexperienced. If you are too old, they scorn you for still being in the position you are without a success story.

It’s a crazy society we live in.

I’m sure I am not the only one who has felt that way. I eventually learnt Dammy should have being a challenge to me and set me on my toes to do better.

I shouldn’t have hated the poor girl for being so blessed, successful and intelligent. I personally feel age shouldn’t be a determinant to who we fashion our lives after. As long as such a person fit into our ideal role model.

I think people just seem to not like each other and get too spiteful. If I could love Kylie Jenner hustle and envy her (she’s way more younger than I am), then why not celebrate another simply because she’s black like I am.

We seem to believe nobody knows it all than we are because she’s younger than we are, that’s why we remain in a position for too long.

Be teachable! 
Be correctable!
Accept mistakes!
Stop spiting people simple because they are younger than you and do better than you
Age shouldn’t be a factor to who you can learn from. Everyone has a different measure of success.
Thanks for reading darlings.

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Love you loads💋💋

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Letting Go…


So many times in our lives, we hold on tight to the most mundane thing we ought to let go.
The only reason we find ourselves holding on to this is because we lack the strength to let go. A bad habit you wish to stop but feel you cannot, a friend that keeps bringing you down, that toxic relationship that keeps tearing you apart piece by pieces, that terrible job that keeps you away from achieving milestones in life, that particular course you find no joy in doing but have to because your parent decide you must do it, that abusive marriage that will one day take your life if you don’t walk away soon…

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From the Archives: The Night

I am back again with another post from my archives. This was written in 2011. After reading this, I really wonder what was going through my mind as I penned this down…I really wish…


Souls moan in anguish of our cruelty

Hens return to roost

The goats stop bleating

Birds cease to fly

Men retire to their bosom

And lovers cling to each other

Vehicles seek their parking lot

I sigh




Flow rapidly

Where do I fit?

Woes was welcome 

I gaze u-p

And behold the sky

Despite the gloom

There is a ray of hope

The stars

In their tiny shape

Amass the sky

Illuminating my dark soul

Giving me a beam of light



I Am Over You by Tomiwo Akinyemi

I am over you
Your scent turns my stomach
It sends a strong anger down my spine
The sight of you makes me wish
I had a laser in my eyes
I am over you
When I am drowning I stay afloat
The rage I feel is like a molten magma
That cannot be crushed
I am over you
Your presence is like a shadow
Devoid of meaning and purpose
Every nook and cranny
Is filled with memory regrets
Of the worthlessness I pursued
I am over you
Your closeness to my proximity
Makes my heart go into a vegetative state
Filled with regrets of the time
I had spent with you
Who are you kidding?
Tomiwo Akinyemi blogs at MarkTaum. This is one of his yet to be published poetry collection.

I Can’t Stay Away


…hehehehehe…this picture caught my attention and I decided to choose it as a welcome intro…


…probably because of the comments I received challenging why “I have to neglect the baby I am nurturing”, “why I feel staying away is the best option”, “what could be so demanding that would make me abandon my blog for a month”, the personal messages encouraging me never to stop writing as I do not know who reads on a dailyand the calls…I could go on and on…but I realised I just couldn’t stay away! You guys made me feel super special and it shows how much you appreciate my post and read them. I say thank you all…I promise never to try to stay away… Continue reading


Slowly slipping into oblivion

Unconscious of the shadows hovering over the sun

And the gloom reflection on the moon

The grass turning brown


Quiet and withdrawn

The music became a favorite companion

And the images on the screen, a pastime

Waiting endlessly for something that isn’t going to happen…

Bottled Emotions Kill Relationships


In every relationship, communication is key. Between friends, spouses, boss-subordinate, pastor-congregation, teacher-student and the likes. Every two people who have found themselves together in a situation that need them to work together, be together or live together need to ensure there’s a constant communication between them to avoid rift.

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You can’t win Always!


Whoever said the devil you know is better than the angel you dunno must have written that based on a side of a story. Continue reading



She stared into his face. He was fast asleep but his arms were wrapped around hers. Falling in love with him seems like the best thing that has ever happened to her. He’s so cute, every lady’s dream. He has always been her fantasy, and now he’s a dream come true- young and brainy, focused and determined. He is not one who loves to go out but with her he doesn’t mind.

She had met him on a Sunday evening when she had forced herself to go out. She’s not one who loves to hang out alone but that day she needed to see a particular movie which had been the talk of Twitter and all of her friends were occupied. She had munched her popcorn silently as best as she could before the movie began. Lanre had come in shortly before the movie started as well and sat just beside her. His cologne attracted her and she was forced to ask him which one he was wearing and he had politely answered her. Continue reading