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Should Age Be A Factor to Choosing your Ideal Role Model?

Hello darlings, I am really sorry for my inconsistency here. Truth be told, I have loads of write ups on my notes but I haven’t had time to edit and share them as I love to share from my computer. But going forward, I will always learn to share from my mobile WordPress app. 

I am a day late from my fashion post. I am going to share before the week runs out.
Let’s move on to today’s topic…

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I used to like Dammy (not her real name). She was a pretty girl, courageous, always happy, an achiever, already has 2 academic qualifications and some juicy certification to her name. And a successful entrepreneur. She is well traveled, learned and a multilingual. She was every girl’s ideal role model! 



I stalk her everyday on my Instagram and even had to follow her on Snapchat just to know more about her and see how she balanced life, school and even social media with her success.


…until she celebrated a birthday and I realized I was 3 years older…
Confession!

I was angry!

How could I be modeling my life after a young girl as such!

I felt I had lived a lie since I started modeling my life in her path. I felt there was nothing I could have learnt from her. I concluded she was just too young to teach me anything. I believed I should look at people in my age group or older than I am. Honestly, I was so full of spite for her.

Until I learnt better…

We live in a society where people look down on you immediately they learn your age. This is the reason why most people just choose to hide their age. If you are too young, they tend to treat you as inexperienced. If you are too old, they scorn you for still being in the position you are without a success story.

It’s a crazy society we live in.

I’m sure I am not the only one who has felt that way. I eventually learnt Dammy should have being a challenge to me and set me on my toes to do better.

I shouldn’t have hated the poor girl for being so blessed, successful and intelligent. I personally feel age shouldn’t be a determinant to who we fashion our lives after. As long as such a person fit into our ideal role model.

I think people just seem to not like each other and get too spiteful. If I could love Kylie Jenner hustle and envy her (she’s way more younger than I am), then why not celebrate another simply because she’s black like I am.

We seem to believe nobody knows it all than we are because she’s younger than we are, that’s why we remain in a position for too long.

Be teachable! 
Be correctable!
Accept mistakes!
Stop spiting people simple because they are younger than you and do better than you
Age shouldn’t be a factor to who you can learn from. Everyone has a different measure of success.
Live
Learn
Love
Thanks for reading darlings.

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Love you loads💋💋

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Lies Women Tell

 

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Source: Indian Times

After reading Debonairng posts on Common Lies Nigerian Men Tell, I thought, “Well, not only men lies, women do too.”

 

And I have put up a few, you can add yours after reading. And where you disagree with me, please mention…lols…Let’s get to it, shall we?

 

  1. He means nothing, we are just friends

When a lady says this, my dear brother don’t believe her and assume they are actually just friends. Probe further. Ask questions. Be at alert. They can go from just being friends to much more…

 

  1. It is just you I love

Well, this may be true in some cases but trust me when I say a woman has the heart to love more than one man. Yes, she may actually and really love you but she may be catching feelings for another. Well, she doesn’t have to tell you that. She just need to tell you what you want to hear…

 

  1. It’s okay, we are fine

If after a fight/argument, your girlfriend says this, uncle…all is not well! It is not!! Please it is not!!! It’s either she already has an alternative and she’s thinking of ditching your ass already. So don’t give up begging until you are really certain all is well in paradise.

 

  1. I’m on my Period

When a girl is getting tired of you, this usually pops up…She can’t stand you anymore or she’s getting the D elsewhere…

 

  1. You are the only Man I’ve done this with…

You are hearing this because you have a fat purse or you are special in some other ways best known to her. Trust me, you may not be the only one especially if she’s an expert at whatever it is you guys have just done…

 

  1. I ran out of Data

She refused to respond to your chat or the chat did not even deliver at all…errrm bros, she’s actually with another uncle and she doesn’t wish to be disturbed. Trust me, as soon as she is done she will be all loving and sweet with you, you won’t even remember you were angry a moment ago…

 

  1. Your D size is just Perfect

Uncle, if you know it is not…don’t believe her. If you’ve ever heard her compliment bigger ones, then you should be scared… It is not perfect. She’s only hanging on until she sees a better option…

 

  1. I just want to hang out with the girls tonight…

She has an event to attend and you wish to follow her there and she tells you this. My dear brother, she is not proud of you. She doesn’t want people to see her with you in public. You is a private property not for public view especially if you are car-less and you both have to bike there or use Uber to front…errrrm….

 

Feel free to add your own…

Rocking a Skater Skirt

Hello darlings, it’s another Wednesday. And yes, I made it! Another fashion post. Today, I am sharing how I rocked a skater skirt.

 

Skater skirt are a wardrobe staple and every girl should own one. It can be rocked as a corporate outfit, on a date with boo, to church, weekend visits and what have you depending on how you style it. It’s comfortable and stylish. I love it more because it helps me to hide my bulge when I have eaten too much…*coversface*

 

I have got a couple of skater skirts, and I will share pictorial ways I have rocked it over time.

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Voila!!!

 

Did I rock them well? Which is your favorite? I plan on getting shorter ones and trust me to share with you when I rock.

 

If you like this post, please share with others…

 

Have a beautiful day ahead…much love darlings!

 

 

Staying Relevant Goes Beyond Looks

Hello Debwritesblog lovers, I’m here again. Fourth post in a week and it feels so good. That feeling to be inspired and share is second to none *well, only a writer will understand that part*😉 We pray for more inspiration, no more writer block and the time to share, Amen🙏🏼

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Letting Go…

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So many times in our lives, we hold on tight to the most mundane thing we ought to let go.
The only reason we find ourselves holding on to this is because we lack the strength to let go. A bad habit you wish to stop but feel you cannot, a friend that keeps bringing you down, that toxic relationship that keeps tearing you apart piece by pieces, that terrible job that keeps you away from achieving milestones in life, that particular course you find no joy in doing but have to because your parent decide you must do it, that abusive marriage that will one day take your life if you don’t walk away soon…

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From the Archives: The Night

I am back again with another post from my archives. This was written in 2011. After reading this, I really wonder what was going through my mind as I penned this down…I really wish…

 

Souls moan in anguish of our cruelty

Hens return to roost

The goats stop bleating

Birds cease to fly

Men retire to their bosom

And lovers cling to each other

Vehicles seek their parking lot

I sigh

                    head

                                   bent

Tea-rs

Flow rapidly

Where do I fit?

Woes was welcome 

I gaze u-p

And behold the sky

Despite the gloom

There is a ray of hope

The stars

In their tiny shape

Amass the sky

Illuminating my dark soul

Giving me a beam of light

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23-09-2011

Today’s Quote

Hello guys, happy new week. I’ve been away because I have been experiencing a type of writer’s block recently. Faint ideas will just drop in my head but I won’t be able to develop them. And most times, I forget to pen them down and voooooom…it disappears. Continue reading

You can’t win Always!

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Whoever said the devil you know is better than the angel you dunno must have written that based on a side of a story. Continue reading

The Dream

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She deeply connect to him

She worships the floor he treads on

Her life begins and ends with his

She allowed her innocence be ripped away

Stolen and possessed

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